Just wondering if others are feeling a deep level of sadness despite being 'only' 7 weeks along. Personally, I'm gutted but the logical part of me doesn't think I should be.
Ours was a 'missed miscarriage', so possibly not even 7 weeks but regardless when the grief hits, it makes me feel like I'll never stop crying if I let myself feel it fully.
I agree with the other poster, it is the loss of the imagined life that I'm grieving rather than the child itself.
I'm desperately trying to sit with the feelings, but it's hard to resist the urge to "do" instead of "be".
My wife had 3 miscarriages at around 7 weeks. It is devastating. The last one we were at 7 weeks, had an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat, and then my wife had a miscarriage the next day. I know that later term losses can be hard, but I feel that if you are trying to have a child, a miscarriage at any time after a positive pregnancy test can be difficult. I know that as soon as we would get a positive test we would imagine the future, imagine ourselves as parents, and imagine our life with a child. The miscarriages weren't just a loss of the embryo/fetus, it was a loss of that imagined future. Dealing with early miscarriages is also really tough because, at least where we are from, it's expected that you don't tell anyone you are pregnant until after 12 weeks - so you're basically expected to deal with it in silence.
Ours was a 'missed miscarriage', so possibly not even 7 weeks but regardless when the grief hits, it makes me feel like I'll never stop crying if I let myself feel it fully.
I agree with the other poster, it is the loss of the imagined life that I'm grieving rather than the child itself.
I'm desperately trying to sit with the feelings, but it's hard to resist the urge to "do" instead of "be".
My wife had 3 miscarriages at around 7 weeks. It is devastating. The last one we were at 7 weeks, had an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat, and then my wife had a miscarriage the next day. I know that later term losses can be hard, but I feel that if you are trying to have a child, a miscarriage at any time after a positive pregnancy test can be difficult. I know that as soon as we would get a positive test we would imagine the future, imagine ourselves as parents, and imagine our life with a child. The miscarriages weren't just a loss of the embryo/fetus, it was a loss of that imagined future. Dealing with early miscarriages is also really tough because, at least where we are from, it's expected that you don't tell anyone you are pregnant until after 12 weeks - so you're basically expected to deal with it in silence.