Hello, I’m 24 yrs of age. Back in early Dec. my wife and I found out that we were pregnant. She’s had a child before in a previous relationship that I took the role of father. So this was my first blood related child, and we were ecstatic. Felt an immense love right away.. but after 12 weeks (almost past the threshold that most miscarriages happen) we lost him. (Yes, him) we were able to tell the gender when she delivered him. My baby boy! It’s what I was hoping for since the second we learned we were pregnant.
I’m not sure how to feel. We left the hospital 2 days ago and since then I haven’t felt sadness, I haven’t felt grief in any way. I’ve just been numb. To everything. I’ve lost all feelings good and bad and it’s driving me nuts. Just posting to see who else has had this experience, and if they’ve felt a similar way. If you’re experiencing this, I’m terribly sorry.
Hi mcallistercole22
Sorry to hear you are going through this and it is horrible that you had to go through with the delivery.
I can only talk about my experience and looking back I think I coped with the grief of the situation by reacting to the trauma in a similar way. It is called emotional numbness. My wife was in tears and all I wanted to do was protected and reassure her. I had a job to do and emotions were not important as I needed to be strong for my wife.
It was a number of months until I felt sadness, anger or any other emotion linked with grief.
I think it can be a natural reaction for a lot of men, but don’t be afraid to show emotion when it feels right. Your partner will want to know how you feel
and that you are going through this journey together
If there is anything you need, please let us know
Dan - MFM