My wife and I just experienced the loss of our baby at roughly 7 weeks. This was our first pregnancy and we are devastated. We had two trips to the ER due to the bleeding where the heartbeat was still active. Only on the third trip to the ER did we discover we had lost the baby. My poor wife had to experience two extra appointments of poking and prodding to boot.
Basically, I am looking to see if anyone has any advice. I am struggling with what I assume are all the normal concerns, guilt, what ifs, disappointment to the family, etc. I also work in healthcare and have been struggling to assist patients at work.
Any tips or tricks would be appreciated. Thank you to everyone in advance.
These all sound like common feelings that I also felt. Selfishly It took me a while to become ‘ok’ with seeing others pregnant however a couple of months down the line and I’m able to accept that now and be genuinely happy for them.
I don’t mean to be one of those people but when I am feeling low about it, I found that getting outside for something as simple as a walk helps me clear my head and process the negative thoughts better.
I suppose the fact that I still remain hopeful for us gets me through the bad times.
I work in healthcare too, and personally am lucky enough to be able to take some time off. I'm going to be trying to sit with how I'm feeling as much as I can tolerate; lean into community; accept I feel lost; catch up on TV; whatever feels right at the time.