I'm a 42 yr old man and I'll give you a little background so you can judge before you leave with your help later. At 24 I became addicted to heroin and at 26 I my daughter was born in that years October. In January of 2007 which would be 3 months later I did a rapid detox. That was mentally and physically the hardest thing in my life until the 3rd April 2023. I have lived away and I hope since that time a life for my daughter. I started a relationship with the one person I had known and loved for 25 years only recently. She is an amazing mother and a beautiful person. At 20 weeks we lost her and nothing in my life has prepared me for this onslaught of emotions. I feel selfish even now making this about me. I don't expect anyone to understand the mental capacity you need to succeed in what I did previously but I hope everyone understands that this is breaking me in ways that are not close to comparable. I don't have suicidal thoughts but I do think I have failed enough to accept death. I don't want to self destruct! Please help if you can. Thank you in advance.
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Hi David,
First of all condolences to you and your partner for everything you have been through with the loss of the baby. We are here to help if we can.
The first thing I would say is for you to go through what you did in your twenties, you must have a serious amount of inner strength and resolve to get through that, and whatever you learnt about yourself in that process you may be able to use when coping with this loss.
The grieving process is very different for each individual, influenced by many things, but the advice I always give is to ensure you speak to someone about it.
It sounds like you and your partner are very close so sharing your emotions and feelings together and working through this experience as a couple may well be the answer, but if you are looking for more support from professionals, such as counselling please let me know.
This will take time to get over and will become easier, but we are here if you need us
Dan - MFM