Hey Daniel, I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. It must have been such a shock to find out and then it to be ripped away from you, and also not to get the chance to enjoy the feeling of looking forward to parenthood together. Look after yourselves - 10 weeks does not feel a long time to come to terms with what you;ve both been through. My partner and I are also in that stage of trying though also living in fear it might happen again. We realise it's important to keep talking to each other through whatever we are going through... though that's definitely a challenge for me to access feelings around all this. take care, Will

A lot of the time I have felt numb to feeling or in denial. Which can quickly turn to anger especially when I or other people, including my partner, expect me to feel. Initially or at various points after each miscarriage I have cried which has felt cathartic but often I can't access sadness that easily. I wish I could!.. numbness, anger, sadness...

Thanks for posting Ollie. My partner and I have also considered adoption after the pain of miscarriages - her cousin and partner adopted last year and couldn't be happier. I really resonate when you say that the conception journey was taking away a part of who you are as a couple- we have only had two miscarriages which have thrown our world upside down, so I can't imagine what you've been through especially with your wife's surgery. Wishing you all the best with the adoption process. Let us know how you get on. richard

Thank you Chris and Dan. Your replies were really useful for me and it's helped open more conversation with my partner, and we have been able to support each other a lot better. We are both in therapy as well which is helping too. There was something about accepting and talking to her about where I was with everything that allowed me to listen to her better. It's simple to reflect on it now but a few weeks ago I was trying to fight or resist something... I've also taken some time out from work and a holiday together with her which has been good! We are set on carrying on trying even with the risk of miscarrying again and are better resourced now if it happens again. Despite the pain and moments of difficulty, through talking we can see that the two miscarriages so far have brought us closer together and made us reevaluate our lives and priorities moving forwards. I resonate with what you say, Dan, that sometimes the things that we most desire in life are the most difficult to get or achieve. Thank you again, Richard