Hi Richard, Thanks for your message. I don't think 'only' applies in this case, miscarriage affects everyone differently and I'm sorry to hear you and your partner have been through it too. Great to hear about your Cousin's experience, it is quite daunting at times learning about the potential impacts of trauma and neglect on adopted children, but we think it is the right route for us. If you do decide to adopt I'd be more than happy to share how we have found it. We have an approval panel lined up for July so may have more to share then!

Thanks Chris, More than happy to keep this forum updated, so long as I remember to post! Yes for us it was a turning point after our latest miscarriage back in October last year when my wife had to go in and out of surgery multiple times. While we both still really wanted kids, we decided the stress and pressure it was putting on our lives outweighed our desire to try again, which maybe some on this forum can relate to. Thanks for your best wishes and if anyone on here wants to talk about adoption as a potential route and our experience to date (there's a lot we didn't know!) I'd be happy to do so.

Hi Chris, Thanks for reading and replying to my post, and so sorry to hear about your loss. You're right about the pandemic not helping, I can't even be in the waiting room with my wife before and after her surgery like I was the last 3 times, I have to just drop her off and wait to be told to come back, which makes her even more anxious about the whole thing. I'll have a look at the blog post you suggest and the other links. We are just taking it day by day at the moment but knowing there is support available is useful. Thanks as well for the offer of a private chat, I'll see how things go over the coming days and weeks, very difficult to know how we will be feeling on each day! Ollie