I posted on this forum last year after my wife suffered another miscarriage and I was going through the grieving process, which helped me work through my feelings at the time (thank you!).
We are now in a very different place (and not one we thought we would be in!), so I thought I would share in case it helps others.
After 7 failed pregnancies, we didn't feel we could cope with the pain, uncertainty and pressure we had spent three years under and decided to end our journey to having birth children, instead turning to to adoption.
This was a big mental shift for us, we felt we were giving up on a dream but at the same time felt huge relief that we wouldn't have to go back through it all again. It was almost a grieving process in itself to move from trying to conceive to trying to adopt, but once through it we are now happy with our decision.
Everyone on this forum is in a different place and this may not be the right path for you at all. There is still a part of me which wants to see a mini version of my wife and I running around the house, which we may never now see. For us personally, we had given so much to our conception journey that we felt it was taking away a big part of who we were and impacting our ability to enjoy our lives and our relationship. We felt our lives had been on hold for far too long.
We are now halfway through the process to become approved adopters. While daunting, I'm now looking forward to meeting our future child/ren (we may go for siblings!).
My genuine sympathy goes out to all of you experiencing miscarriage. There is no easy path through it and hopefully you find your happy ending, whatever that may look like. We hope we find ours in a child or children who haven't had the best of starts but who we can give all our pent up love to.