Hello,
My partner and I just found out a couple of days ago about our miscarriage. Have had a plethora of emotions and am struggling to still process the entire thing. My partner is also a long distance away, lives in another state. I've offered to travel to where she's at rn but she's not ready for that...she wants to be left alone which is understandable. How can I support her? Can I even support her if I'm struggling as well? Help? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Cortes,
First of all I am sorry for your loss and the feelings you are going through.
Long distance adds a complexity to this, which I don’t have experience of, but I’ll try to provide some advice.
The loss of a baby through miscarriage is a tough thing to cope with for both partners, and can take a long time. You are relatively early in this process, so have to work through this still.
It seems like your partner wants space to process this individually. I’d say you need to respect her wishes but maybe be on the end of the phone, and if you feel it will help, discuss how you are feeling, so she knows she’s not alone in this and despite the distance you are with her emotionally
Maybe in a week or 2 she will want company.
Does she have friends / family close by? If so encourage her to lean on that support network and let her lead her own recovery in how she wants to approach it and the timescales, and use this time to reflect and look after yourself
I hope this helps
Dan - MFM