Hello,
My husband and I went through a missed miscarriage in January this year. Our 'baby' stopped developing at week 8 and we discovered the absence of heartbeat at week 10 through an ultrasound scan. I never expected it to affect me so deeply because I was not that far along but it did. My husband was troubled too.
So we went through the grieving journey together and we tried to keep tabs on each other. Or should I say my husband took care of me more than me him. I was focusing a lot in recovery that took up to 3 weeks as we went for medication for the expulsion. Besides, I was drowning in guilt, regret, self-blame, disappointment, etc. During this time, my husband continued to work during the day, took over all household matters and cared completely for our daughter. At night when it was still, we just kept each other company and assured me that he was ok.
Fast forward to today, we're able to talk to each other and others about our experience openly.
Would anyone kindly share the 3 most challenging moments/emotions that you have to cope with in this trying time? And what kind of support do you wish you had?
I wish you all much strength and courage.
A lot of the time I have felt numb to feeling or in denial. Which can quickly turn to anger especially when I or other people, including my partner, expect me to feel. Initially or at various points after each miscarriage I have cried which has felt cathartic but often I can't access sadness that easily. I wish I could!.. numbness, anger, sadness...